Questsions & Answers
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Q. Sometimes at work I feel very overwhelmed and frustrated. It is very fast-paced and I feel like I cannot stay in control and do my job. I work at the drive-through window at a fast-food restaurant. My job is to take orders, make drinks, and hand the customers their food. Sometimes I feel too overwhelmed to do my job and end up getting frustrated at the customers. I know this is wrong. What can I do?

A. Your thoughts and feelings are in your soul. It is important to recognize your feelings, i.e. frustrated and overwhelmed, so that you can speak back to them. Once you recognize a specific feeling, you can say the truth back to it. I feel frustrated and angry, but Christ-I is not a frustrated and angry person. This is the spirit truth about yourself. You must truly give up acting out the feeling and believe that Christ is living your life at that very moment.

If you practice recognizing your feelings and speaking back to them all of the time, it will get easier. (The feelings may never change, so it will not necessarily feel easier). This process can take a very short time. Even though it might feel crazy at your work sometimes, God will provide the time for you to do this, because ultimately He is in control.

Getting this straight is very important for you. You are an example for the world. The people with whom you work can see how Christ lives His life out through you without consciously knowing what you believe. Some day they may want to know how and why your life works. When you are believing that you are Christ in your form, the customers also benefit. They have the pleasure of receiving their change and food from Jesus Christ through you.

Q. Recently several friends and family members have commented that I seem phony. I believe Gal. 2:20 that it’s Christ living my life, and I don’t know what else to do to solve this problem. Help!

A. Phoniness to me means acting in a way that is not natural for the person. Phoniness usually comes from being self-conscious-all self stuff is sin. When you become self-conscious (and only you will know when and if you are) look at your believing. You will find that you are either thinking you are better than or less than those you are with. Both of these postures are self-centered. Get your eyes onto Christ-the One who lives your life. Because of that you are okay. Your self-consciousness will go away and you won’t have to force
conversation or behavior and you won’t be phony. Also, it will help you keep a check on yourself if you ask those around you to tell you when and if you are being phony.

Q. If all of us in my family are Christians and accepting Christ is the answer to life, why is my family such a mess? My parents hate each other, and we children are defiant and rebellious. I can’t get my life straight or help any of us. The bottom line is we are one miserable family, and I don’t understand why!

A. The only answer I know to solve a miserable life is to see that we are not independent selves. We are operated by one of two spirits, either Christ or Satan. We can never operate ourselves.

Before we became Christians, we were joined to Satan and he operated us. Once we accept Christ as our Saviour, we are joined to Him at our spirit center and He operates us. Most people do not know this and just continue to see themselves as self-operating, as if they are the ones in control of their own lives.

The problem in your and any family comes from seeing ourselves in this independent way. We really agree with Satan when we see ourselves as "just us." If we believe this, Satan can misuse our members (behavior, actions and attitude). When you change your believing and agree with the truth of who you really are (Christ in your form), you will see Him live out obedience and respect through you, which others can see too.

You now have a bottom-line answer for your life that others in your family may want. But no matter how they choose to see themselves, you can trust in your completeness as Christ lives His life out through you. It really works.